As you’ve probably noticed, there’s no shortage of relationship advice for women on how to get a boyfriend or deal with relationship problems. The lack seems to be somewhere in the middle: how do you avoid bad relationships in the first place?
Know who you’re looking for
When it comes to our love lives, most of us spend way too much time trying to be attractive to men in general and not nearly enough on deciding what type of man we’re really trying to attract. I’m not counting those fantasies about the tall, dark, and handsome wealthy investment banker who spends his weekends pirating on the high seas, either. I mean really thinking about the important character attributes of your ideal guy.
Watch out for major contradictions in your expectations, too. For instance, if you love the strong silent type, don’t complain when your macho man has a hard time sharing his feelings.
Establish your boundaries
Boundaries, popularly known as “deal breakers,” are your signals to leave a relationship ASAP. They’re things like physical abuse, criminal background, and addictions.
Here’s the thing, though: you need to decide what your boundaries are before you get involved with anyone. Once you’re romantically and physically involved—or even worse, financially entangled—it’s way too easy to start making excuses for his behavior.
One good piece of relationship advice for women is to share your deal breakers with a friend. That way, when you call her up to complain, she’ll give you a nudge by saying something like, “But didn’t you swear you’d break up with any guy who did that?”
Learn the warning signs
Tired of getting hurt by the same things over and over again? Most likely your man radar is broken. To fix it, learn the early warning signs that can
show you when your love interest is likely to be a cheater, physical abuser, alcoholic, or whatever else it is you want to avoid. This way you can filter out the noise and focus in on the good men. If you need pointers, relationship advice for women who’ve dealt with these kinds of guys can help you out.
Listen to your gut
How many times have you heard this one? Well, it’s one of the most often repeated pieces of relationship advice for women because it’s so true. In relationships, more than anywhere else, a gut feeling alone can tell you when things just aren’t going to work out. Don’t ignore your instincts.
Beware of instant attraction
Just about all of us have met at least one woman who swears she knew she’d found her soul mate the moment she set eyes upon the man who’s now her husband. It does happen. Chalk that one up to instinct, too, I guess.
More often, though, instant attraction eventually leaves you dazed and miserable from a whirlwind affair that crashed in less than a month. If you feel yourself irresistibly attracted to a man you just met, take a step back and ask yourself why? If you can’t see any major stop signs, go ahead and get to know the guy, but take it slower than you normally would. A strong initial attraction should make you more cautious, not less.
Before you read any more relationship advice for women, take some time to get clear on your own needs and desires. Decide what kind of man you’re looking for and set clear boundaries and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of avoiding heartache in the future.
Article source: HealTalk.com
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Thursday, April 2, 2009
Body Language 6- Gestures by Both Sexes
General Flirting and Attraction Gestures
When in the company of the opposite sex, the body language of both genders will change dramatically. Men will stand a little taller, no slouching or slumping.
He will also stick his chest out and suck in his stomach – this makes him appear more dominant, and happens automatically around someone he likes or has taken a fancy to.
If a woman takes a liking to the described man, she will respond to his gestures by drawing attention to her breasts, tilting her head, touching her hair, and exposing her wrists –thus making her appear submissive.
There are of course, more deliberate flirting and attraction gestures, but these are gestures made consciously, whereas the ones described above are automatic, and made subconsciously.
Attraction Gestures Used by Men
Compared to women, men don’t have a large repertoire of attraction gestures. When a man likes a woman, he will use gestures that emphasize his masculinity.
The common gestures used by men are the expanding of the chest, straightening of the back and pulling the stomach in. He’ll also adjust this clothing or touch his hair.
Men typically use their thumbs to display dominance and masculinity; subsequently a man will tuck his thumbs into his belt, pointing them at his crotch to emphasize his manhood.
Attraction Gestures Used by Women
Fortunately for guys, women send out a whole plethora of signs and signals to let him know she’s interested in him. Unfortunately for women, many men are slow on the uptake, completely oblivious to the signs and signals she is sending out. What makes things worse is that women sometimes send out mixed signals, to manipulate men into showing how they feel about her – this often leaves men confused and subsequently, they won’t try to approach her.
When a woman looks around a room and sees a man she’s interested in, she’ll often send a gaze his way until she catches his eye. During this first look she typically holds his eye contact for 23 seconds, and then she looks away. Women may then perform other gestures to show interest in her chosen guy.
A woman will use something known as the ‘Hair Flick’ around a guy she fancies. This gesture involves flicking the hair over her shoulder or away from the face. Even women with short hair use this gesture.
Another gesture to watch out for is the ‘self touch’. When a woman slowly and sensually strokes her thigh or neck she implies that if the man plays his cards right, he may be able to touch her in these ways too.
The limp wrist is seen as a submission signal by many men, and as such is used by women everywhere to make a guy feel that he could dominate her. The limp wrist gesture is often used for maximum effect when fondling a cylindrical object.
A similar gesture to the limp wrist is also used by women to reel in a man. This gesture is known as the ‘exposed neck’, and is exactly as the name says – the woman will tilt her head to one shoulder, exposing her neck to the man. This gesture is seen by men as submissive in much the same way as the limp wrist.
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When in the company of the opposite sex, the body language of both genders will change dramatically. Men will stand a little taller, no slouching or slumping.
He will also stick his chest out and suck in his stomach – this makes him appear more dominant, and happens automatically around someone he likes or has taken a fancy to.
If a woman takes a liking to the described man, she will respond to his gestures by drawing attention to her breasts, tilting her head, touching her hair, and exposing her wrists –thus making her appear submissive.
There are of course, more deliberate flirting and attraction gestures, but these are gestures made consciously, whereas the ones described above are automatic, and made subconsciously.
Attraction Gestures Used by Men
Compared to women, men don’t have a large repertoire of attraction gestures. When a man likes a woman, he will use gestures that emphasize his masculinity.
The common gestures used by men are the expanding of the chest, straightening of the back and pulling the stomach in. He’ll also adjust this clothing or touch his hair.
Men typically use their thumbs to display dominance and masculinity; subsequently a man will tuck his thumbs into his belt, pointing them at his crotch to emphasize his manhood.
Attraction Gestures Used by Women
Fortunately for guys, women send out a whole plethora of signs and signals to let him know she’s interested in him. Unfortunately for women, many men are slow on the uptake, completely oblivious to the signs and signals she is sending out. What makes things worse is that women sometimes send out mixed signals, to manipulate men into showing how they feel about her – this often leaves men confused and subsequently, they won’t try to approach her.
When a woman looks around a room and sees a man she’s interested in, she’ll often send a gaze his way until she catches his eye. During this first look she typically holds his eye contact for 23 seconds, and then she looks away. Women may then perform other gestures to show interest in her chosen guy.
A woman will use something known as the ‘Hair Flick’ around a guy she fancies. This gesture involves flicking the hair over her shoulder or away from the face. Even women with short hair use this gesture.
Another gesture to watch out for is the ‘self touch’. When a woman slowly and sensually strokes her thigh or neck she implies that if the man plays his cards right, he may be able to touch her in these ways too.
The limp wrist is seen as a submission signal by many men, and as such is used by women everywhere to make a guy feel that he could dominate her. The limp wrist gesture is often used for maximum effect when fondling a cylindrical object.
A similar gesture to the limp wrist is also used by women to reel in a man. This gesture is known as the ‘exposed neck’, and is exactly as the name says – the woman will tilt her head to one shoulder, exposing her neck to the man. This gesture is seen by men as submissive in much the same way as the limp wrist.
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Joanne, thank you for making this available
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